What do we live for everyday?

We got so many days in our lives, and all our lives are supposed to have a purpose, and every day we are supposed to come closer to fulfilling it -even if we aren´t at all conscious that we´re doing it- but how many of those days do we really make something of? I just had a regular day, I did stuff, I got up early, showered, admired the pretty view from my house, went to brunch with the family to celebrate father´s day, paid said brunch with the -minimum amount of – money I make, took a little stroll with the family, went back to our house, did some laundry, read for about two hours, played with my baby (i.e. my dog), cleaned my room, ate a lil’ bit, edited some photos, cleaned my computer, watched a movie, saw House of Cards, taught my mother how to use Netflix. The day was filled with activities, but all of them without impact on my life, with no meaning, it was a dull day.

Tomorrow I gotta go to my dull job, my kind of job would normally be exciting, or at least buzzy and should keep me busy, but not at this company, it is jus that. So my week will continue like this, and im so so sick of it, I just want to break free of that, do something meaningful, doesn’t have to be meaningful to the world, but yes the world should be a part of it. I guess I have been too afraid of taking the chance of doing what I love because Im afraid I´ll fail and disappoint not even me but my father.

I realised that last weekend, the way it came to me was nothing like I would ever have imagined, through someone I would´ve never even think to have an important part of an important discovery, someone I wouldn’t preferred to, at the end, I learned that this person had gone through stuff like me, which made me a little bit less disapproving of her, and more -though I hate to admit- understanding, related in a way, but that is another story.

The point is, I think this week I was trying to forget about it but today It showed. This days are dull because I have chosen that. At the beginning of this year I was determined to do the total opposite and I got started on that, I kept for a while but then as always life, or myself happened. And things got difficult, and I got scared, I guess its normal, but WE shouldn’t choose to stay that way, thats the difference between people who are happy and successful and those who are not. Now that I`m aware and conscious of what was scaring me and holding me back I should confront it and work with this issue and not let it hold me back.

As a lot of people say, as long as we keep our goals/dreams/whatever the heck you want to do in mind and don’t stop until you get it, well, you’ll get it, you’ll make it; Its as simple -didn’t say easy- as that.

Even if you’re not very sure of what you want, try to narrow those ideas and desires down and make them as tangible as you can for you and hold on to that thought. Try to move towards it and on the way you’ll start finding the missing pieces, you will start attaching those pieces in the right places until you have that complete tangible ideal of what you really want in your hands, is not that you will know because it is not something it has been there as a kind of fate or destiny thing that has been written without your contentment. It is more of a thing you make along the way because what we want or need now will be shaped into something else that`ll fulfil what we will want and need tomorrow, and as our lives go on, it’ll keep evolving -not changing-.

I also realised we should be careful of the words we choose to describe things and the meaning we give them. They may slow or fasten the journey through our goals and dreams.

So I guess my point is… tonight I choose to select my words wisely and make sure what they mean, and what they mean to me. And start doing the things that im afraid of, I will still be afraid, but with that ideal in mind, I am confident I will get there as soon as I have to. Now I also understand patience. Patience is not waiting around until something happens, patience is being certain that the results you want will happen in time while you keep working towards them. So, define what you want to live for every day, or at the very least, define the first pieces of it and work towards that goal knowing that as long as you keep at it all of the pieces will come together and will start to take shape and that will come to you when your work has made you ready for it. Decision, Patience, Work and Determination are your best allies. And while this is your goal and you should always follow your got, also remember that people will come along the way and some of them CAN and WILL help you, grab that hand, we are not completely alone, at least not always.

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So what started as a drain for my feelings and thoughts today turned into a deep reflection and some sort of revelation for me, all through the writing of this. And english isn’t even my native language – as those of you who bared reading till this line may have figured out- I think I just found my therapeutic practice. Writing.

And I hope reading this helped you, just like writing it helped me. Or at least kept you entertained.

All my love

Une Fleur de Lis

I chose this song because it always gets me going and well, its a perfect shower song in case you were wondering what to hear during tomorrow’s morning shower to KICK OFF YOUR DAY. Have a GREAT WEEK!

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Write that down

I can´t believe it’s been more than a year since I last posted something in here.

I was about to close this space a few moths ago, for some reason I didn’t, and tonight this space came to my mind and I felt the need to come here again and tell you a story – or tell myself a story for that matter – there’s just something about writing down your thoughts than just, well, thinking them, even if no one reads them.

In new year’s eve I made only one resolution, to write everyday on my notebook, fill it in with important things that happened that day, that made me think of something or feel something, documenting something that caught my attention, write down my feelings, be grateful, if I had nothing to say I would just take a picture of something or someone that summed up that day or that I just liked to be there in that page.

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I know this is a shitty image but I liked the quote (I guess we are leaving aesthetics aside just this once).

I found that this gave me peace of mind -I write at night- and even though I don’t do it every day -In fact it has been more than a month since I’ve touched that notebook- I feel different, better, when I do it, I can really rest when I sleep, cause I don´t have to keep whatever happened that day, my feelings and thoughts dancing around my mind for the night, cause its all in there, in all the pages of my notebook (Its all blank paper, my favourite). It gives me a sense of relief, Its like sharing it, I guess thats why also like this blog, because even though I write for me I know there’s someone somewhere who feels the same or maybe I will give you an idea like this that’ll help you somehow and I think that is absolutely awesome, but I think Im loosing focus so…

One other HUGE impact that doing this writing has caused, is that I now feel the need to do something important everyday, something worth writing for, something that makes me proud, or maybe doing something for me that I haven’t done lately, or helping someone, or be productive or just simply do something different as little as it is, but different.

Why is it huge? Because I’M changing my life everyday, and lifts me up, and makes me wanna be better, and therefore makes me happier. Also by writing what happened and how I feel about it or my perspective of things has got me to know myself better, how I think, what really matters and what doesn’t, and I could keep on writing about this and what other things this practice does for me, but It is already a long post and, you know, everyone hates spoilers.

So, be sure to try it at home (Or wherever the heck you want). Whatever it is, write that down.

Best of luck

Une Fleur de Lis

(For inspiration to start)

High Altitude Airships to Combat Poaching

Wild Juggling

Elephants_at_Amboseli_national_park_against_Mount_Kilimanjaro Elephants at Amboseili National Park from amoghavarsha.com

Hardly a day goes by without some depressing news about species going extinct or on the brink of extinction due to poaching or habitat destruction. These are sad times indeed for those of us who realize what a treasure biodiversity is, and how the loss of it can never be undone. So many unique, wonderful animal and plant species, some of which may have contained cures for many diseases have been irrevocably lost.

Elephants and rhinoceroses in Africa are particularly vulnerable due to their size and because of the high demand for elephant ivory and rhinoceros horn. Various countries and organizations are doing what they can to combat the ivory trade and poaching, yet it continues. It appears to be getting worse. According to experts, in 2013, we lost 96 African elephants a day due to illegal hunting.

This bloodbath continues to go…

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Best of NYFW

Fashion Week is over, sadly all we fashion lovers are done with one of the most important weeks in the fashion industry and well ….our lives, though most of us had to watch the shows through our laptops and ipads cause we aren’t lucky enough yet to be there periscoping at the 3rd row, we do now have our guide to perfect style till SS2014, here I share with you my favorite street style and gorgeous looks from the lucky gals who get to be working in the industry.

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Bianca Venerayan and Danielle Roche

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Caroline Issa

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dasha gold Diana Enciu Ella Catliff elle strauus

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Jacey Duprie

Jasmine Schutt

joanna hillman Karen Hill kelly framel kelly

kim pesch kim pesche

yes two more pictures of Kim cause she is faboulous!

Krystin Hargrove

lili rosenthal

linda toll

Natalia Killz

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taylor tomasi

tonya papanikolov

All Photos taken from Refinery29

Who say’s fashion isn’t art?

Love,

Une Fleur de Lis

How to be amazed …in your own city

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Painting found on Pinterest, São Paulo, Brasil.

Today I found myself reading a friends blog, right now she’s a backpacker in Brasil! yep she left school (only for this semester don’t panic), took her things and got on a plain with a friend to go see Brasil, I’ll tell you a little bit about her, you see she’s a free spirit, has been to Brasil previously, I’m not sure for how long but a few years back she stayed with a family in Sao Paulo, and she has been in love with the country and culture since then, after that she went to Africa as a missioner she stayed there for a few months as well, she travelled a little bit more god knows where and then she went on exchange for a semester to Spain and obviously traveled around Europe, she got back home and 2 or 3 months later she took off to Brasil, god i wish i had her life, to see what she has seen, to live what she has lived right?
Now she has a blog and writes all about her trips in Brasil and the friends she meets and new experiences that come along every trip, I have to say I was surprised of her writing and not only that, but the way she experiences every single thing that happens day by day.

We all know that feeling when you’re away on a new adventure, away from home, ready for adventure and to be surprised by whatever we may find along the road, and we have a tendency to feel more deeply every event, we appreciate more everything we see, any act of kindness from a local towards a tourist like us, in a way it is because I guess is true that when you travel and you are in a completely different environment you sort of find yourself in a way, perhaps completely maybe just the parts that where hidden inside you and now come out to live to the fullest every experience, it all maximizes, and reading her blog reminded me of that, the way she describes things, she just really transmits to the reader what she is going through and how she lives it how she experiences it, but more importantly she transmits how grateful she is for every little thing, the way she describes how she finds beauty in the architecture on a church in Belo Horizonte which is not a very touristy city and how it changes all the perspective of the city, on how walking is so enjoyable specially when traveling because you can see more closely and carefully all the details in the city and to see actually what is going on there with its people, its buildings, you really do take the time to appreciate everything and that just makes the whole trip beautiful and you do feel grateful to be able to be where you are, to see what you see and actually appreciate it, to meet new and interesting people that maybe just talked to you for a minute and you probably won’t see each other ever again but you where able to have a nice maybe deep conversation with them like with an old friend and  that is something beautiful and also unexpected which makes the trip special and also a beautiful memory you will always have with you.

So after a long time I found a little bit of inspiration again, and I thought, we should do that not only when we travel (I hope it happens soon though), In a city like Monterrey, where I live we are always rushing from one thing to another, from home to work, to school, to classes, courses, getting the food, meeting with friends, pay the bills, we are all moving too fast, which is no surprise cause is a very busy city, there is no time for anything, but we should take time, take the time to walk around the city, get to know your own city, get inspired, take a close slower look to the architecture, walk around the centre of the city, go to places you normally dont frequent, discover a new bar, a new restaurant, see how life happens around you, the colors of your city, take a breath and get to know people randomly on the street, on a park, a cafe, ask them about their lives, their dreams, their plans, you might be surprised of what you may find, and believe me you won’t be disappointed.

You can find beauty and inspiration in everything, anything and in anyone, and be amazed, just gotta look for it the right way and that to me is pure art. Just go walk, find life.

Love,
Une Fleur de Lis